First Move

I must say I have learned from the past that making the first move is not the best move. In fact, it is not the right move in many instances. It results to a lot of sordid consequences in the end. Better keep your mouth shut. And limit your non-verbal advances to a minimum.

I personally don't mind making the first move. I mean, if the feeling is so overwhelming... dili na jud matabang, why not? But as a matter of policy, I only do it if (a) the guy is dying or going away for a long time or for good, (b) the consequences will only humiliate me for a very brief period, or (c) I really really really like the guy. If any of those enumerated concurs with the fact that I am totally comfortable with the guy, then the first move happens. When I say "comfortable" I mean that the guy is a close friend or a known "crush ng bayan."

Rationale: Kase di ba pag crush ng bayan, ordinary na lang sa kanya na sabihan sya ng mga stuff na ganun. Hindi na sya naaapektuhan. Unlike yung mga typical gwaping lang sa tabi-tabi, nafa-flatter pa sa mga ganung pangyayari, tapos pinapatulan kaagad, thinking there are no more fishers left in the ocean to fish them. Tapos pag close friend naman, the friendship overpowers whatever "ilangan" the first move may create. And ideally, hindi rin dapat naaapektuhan ang close friend.

So, why am I blogging this? Wala lang. For awareness or information campaign... hahaha. Because I see a lot of people these days, guys and girls alike, who do not know the "art of first move." The conservative thinks it's a degradation of moral values. The liberated makes it a habit. In my honest opinion, it is the most crucial step towards fulfilling happiness. Whether you're contented just to have expressed your feelings or it is indeed your first step in a possible romantic quest, let your basis be the circumstances that surround the conduct. Don't be too hasty. For the receiving end, don't be impatient. It takes time and timing. It takes courage and humility. For girls, it takes undeniable attraction and a pachydermatous face to finally come up to a guy and level the playing field.