Misplaced Positivity

I learned not to trample upon another's dignity just to feel good about myself. I set expectations for myself and if those are not met I get frustrated. My bright side is never the misery of others. It's just wrong. You feel fortunate because others failed? You have to be happy because at least the misfortune or discomfort did not happen to you? You thank the universe because you were spared? You need the shortcomings of others to uplift your self image? You need to look at the bad side of people to convince yourself that you're doing the right thing? What kind of sick outlook is that? That is just plain insecurity.